I read on a wedding website that you should not talk about your wedding. You will get unsolicited opinions that will crush you.
That was the best piece of advice I've been given thus far.
People have made it abundantly clear when they don't like a color, location, dress, flower, centerpiece that I'm a excited about.
I even had someone look at my ring and say: "Um, well you can always go bigger for an anniversary."
Didn't know people said that out loud.
I happen to like my ring the way it is. It's a very special piece of jewelry that I will forever treasure.
If you know anything about me, it's the fact that I love getting things passed down that were once used in my family. The same goes for Jimmy's family. This ring on my finger has been around from Eisenhower to Obama.
I dare you to go bigger than that.
Don't get me wrong. I like getting advice from people close to me, or whom people's wedding judgement I value.
But when I tell them the colors... and I get a... "No, you should really incorporate some of this in."
Or when a close (very religious) family member asks me if I'm getting married in a church. Gulp. I knew this question was coming.
I give her my "It's not who we are as a couple," speech. And the "I don't want to lie to the church, and ourselves, and say were active Christians, when we're not, just to get married in a church" speech. It's really not the honest way of doing things, I believe. That's not to say that I won't continue going to church every now and then, and that I won't take my children to church.
It's seconds later, I'm called a heathen, and am told our children will be bastards.
There's the spirit.
Nothing like a bitter Betty to dampen the engagement bliss.
That's one of the harsher comments I've gotten.
Unfortunately for me, it was from someone who I've always looked up to.
I imagine this blog will deter anyone from ever giving me any opinions -- EVER -- again for my wedding.
My bridesmaids usually are the only ones who read this, so, if you do -- I vaule your opinion, judgement, and views.
You wouldn't be in my wedding, if I didn't.